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Do you know of anyone who is afraid of talking about himself, afraid to blow his own horn? I am not referring to a narcissistic person who believes he is the ‘greatest thing since sliced bread’. I mean someone who is reluctant to let others know about his on-the-job or personal successes.
Talking about oneself tends to conjure up images of conceit, self-centredness, egotism and the likes. It’s especially difficult when so many of us have been conditioned to believe that it is wrong to call attention to ourselves. On the contrary, it’s when we don’t, that opportunities pass us by. A chance for promotion eludes us because we believe the boss already knows what we can do.
I remember in elementary school if someone started talking about himself and how great he was, we would tell him that "self-praise is no recommendation". That expression taught us to wait for others to shower us with praise; to wait on others to give us permission to acknowledge our accomplishments. We become adults and we find it difficult to acknowledge the role we played in the success of an event or a project. We sit back and watch others claim our successes because we are too afraid to speak up. In fact, even when others commend us for a job well done, we become embarrassed and downplay our role by saying "it’s all a part of the job".
Taking credit for your accomplishments, in or outside the workplace, is not bragging nor boasting. It’s admitting to yourself that you played an important role just like the others on the team. If you don’t take the credit somebody else will.
Time and again I hear clients downplay their contributions because "it’s all a part of the job". One gentleman told me recently that he had interviewed for an internal manager’s position last year with a leading telecommunications company in
My client believed if he had called attention to his achievements he would have been labeled self-centred and egotistical. He is scheduled to be interviewed for a similar position shortly, and I am sure he’s not going to repeat his mistake.
Another client was the leader of a two-person team that invented a safety lock for windows, a product that his company sold exclusively to a major home renovations company. When asked if his employer got a patent for the invention he said he did. When asked if he got any recognition for the part he played, he said "No, because it was all a part of the job". When I told him it was a big deal and it was alright for him to say he was the lead inventor, his face glowed with pride. He did not claim his contribution because he felt it was all a part of the job. To him, it was no big deal because he works with widgets ‘all day long’, but to the company that invention continues to reap financial rewards.
I advise people – clients and others who will listen – that if they don’t blow their own horns, no one will know they are coming. It’s the candidate who knows how to blow her horn without being obnoxious is the one who will be recognized.
Since September is somewhat of a renewal time – back to school, back to work, back to unfinished goals – resolve today to get into the habit of claiming your successes. You can begin with one recent achievement that you are especially proud of, and blow your horn. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, "You did a great job and I am proud of you". Say it until you no longer feel guilty! This is a great preparation for performance review time. When the boss says, "Jane, what have you accomplished over the past year?" You’ll be able to confidently claim your successes without appearing conceited.
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